Stop apologizing for things you cannot control

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Video Transcript: 

How many times have you apologized for something you cannot control? For being yourself! In my life, I have been sorry many times.  As a kid, I was sorry for having girly voice and feminine features. In my early teens, I said sorry for having darker skin and gypsy genes. And, obviously at some point, I also started apologizing for my accent.  It's all because I was taught to adapt and fit in at all costs! 

In that world, the dominating color was gray and it isn't that exciting "50 Shades of Grey".  Oh no, It's just one shade of gray, the shade of trying to fit in. 

Chances are, you have a similar story. I've met people who would say sorry for who they loved, sorry for being too intelligent, sorry for how they looked. But, if there's anything my life has taught me these past three years is that the only reason we are sorry for things we can't control is not that there's something wrong with us, but because we don't have the right people in our lives.

Truth is, for everything you have to apologize to some people, there will be others who will love you for it. You just have to find them! 

Don't be sorry if you are loud or too energetic. Many people will appreciate you bringing energy into their lives! Don't be sorry if you are quiet. The right person will appreciate your listening ear. Don't be sorry for your tough past. The right people will respect you for it. Don't be sorry for who you love! Don't be sorry for how you look! Don't be sorry for taking risks! Don't be sorry for having dreams! Don't be sorry for being weird! And, definitely don't be sorry for your accent, because your accent is your music! 

"I have an accent!"

Studies show that saying sorry too often can make people think poorly of you. Save yourself from living in the world full of one shade of gray and find the right people. 

And, don't get me wrong! Of course, sometimes we need to apologize for things we can control, mistakes we have made and people we have hurt. Always be the bigger person and apologize. And, when you do, make sure it is sincere and that there is a conscious effort not to make the same mistake again. 

But, please stop apologizing for things you cannot control. The moment you accept yourself for who you really are and find people who love you for that, you discover your true colors, and that is always better than living in the world full of one shade of gray.


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